You Can’t Litigate Love (so why are you trying)?

I love my brother image, estate planning attorney, trustsThis week a woman came into her attorney’s office wanting to sue her oldest brother in a trust dispute. She felt he had been taking advantage of her, not giving full financial information and making decisions that only benefitted himself.

At the end of a two-hour meeting (and her admission that a prior attorney had retained a forensic accountant who went through all the trust books and did not agree that her brother had breached his fiduciary duty), it made me think one more time that in family dynamics it is much safer for some family members to walk into a law office than a therapist’s office and it is critically important as attorneys that we do not fall into the trap of believing that what a client says is what the client means. If the client is trying to litigate love it just can’t happen…


Patricia Annino is a sought after speaker and nationally recognized authority on women and estate planning. She educates and empowers women to value themselves and their contributions in order to ACCOMPLISH GREAT THINGS in the world – and in so doing PROTECT THEMSELVES, those they love, and the organizations they care about. Annino recently released her new book, “It’s More Than Money, Protect Your Legacy” available at To download Annino’s FREE eBook, Estate Planning 101 visit,

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