Women In Family Business-Getting Your Husband To Talk To You

By Patricia Annino, J.D., Thomas Davidow, Ed.D. & Cynthia Adams Harrison, Ed.D., LICSW

Suppose in an attempt to find out about the family business, you ask your husband how his day went and he doesn’t want to talk about it. What do you do?

Your husband probably has his reasons. Perhaps he made a simple decision that day-he had to fire an employee or he had to buy a truck. His decision was most likely a consequence of so many events in his work environment, all of which you know little or nothing about because you are not there, that it may be too difficult for him to describe them or for you to follow. Or perhaps he is so tired after dealing with problems all day long that he doesn’t feel like talking about it. Regardless of gender, when someone’s inside an experience, it’s hard to explain a decision and its context to someone who is outside of it.

How do you get past his reluctance and his exhaustion? Try saying to him, “ You look tired. You look awful. You must have had an incredible day.” By letting him know that you care, you open the door to communication. You may wind up hearing more than you need or want to know, but you can filter through it by asking questions.

If he still won’t respond, don’t take it personally. When you feel that he is rejecting you, or that you are the brunt of his frustration or weariness, remind yourself that his behavior has much more to do with him than with you.

Patricia Annino is a sought after speaker and nationally recognized authority on women and estate planning.  She educates and empowers women to value themselves and their contributions in order to ACCOMPLISH GREAT THINGS in the world – and in so doing PROTECT THEMSELVES, those they love, and the organizations they care about.  Annino recently announced the release of an updated version of her successful book, Women and Money: A Practical Guide to Estate Planning to include recent changes in the laws that govern how we protect our assets during and beyond our lifetime.  Annino’s book is an exhortation, resource and trusted companion for women in all facets of life.  To purchase the book visit:  http://amzn.to/hOHuEV or for more about Annino, visit: www.patriciaannino.com



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