Figure Out What You Want In Your Health Care Power of Attorney

power of attorney image, estate planning, Figuring out what you want: The following questions are designed to help you know yourself and to form a basis for discussion with the person you choose to execute your health care power of attorney.

  1. The pleasures of health: How essential are these capabilities to your happiness? (i.e. are they, vital, important, mildly important, not important)
    • Walking
    • Enjoying the outdoors
    • Eating, tasting
    • Drinking
    • Reading
    • Attending religious services
    • Listening to music
    • Watching television
    • Avoiding pain and discomfort
    • Being with loved ones
    • Touching
    • Being self-sufficient
  2. Fear factors: What are your biggest concerns about the end of your life?

  4. Spirituality: How much of your comfort and support comes from religion? From personal prayer? From interaction with clergy?

  6. End of life: If you had the power to decide, what would the last day of your life be like? Where would you be? With whom? What would you be doing? What would your final words be?

  8. Assistance preferences worksheet: It is useful to discuss with your health care agent (and family members as well) the types of assistance you might want, should you need help, and to revisit this issue from time to time, because your preferences could very well change. Looking at each of the different scenarios spelled out below, think through what your preferences would be by asking yourself the following questions:

    1. Would I still want to live at home?
    2. Would I want caregivers hired to help me out in my home?
    3. Would I want to be taken to a rehab or assisted living center?
    4. Would I want family members to care for me?
    5. Would I want to live with one of my children?
    6. Would I want one of my children or a relative to live with me?
    7. Would I want my health care agent to make these decisions for me?
    8. Would my answers differ if my spouse were still living at home?

    • If you were unable to drive a car
    • If you were unable to climb stairs
    • If physical problems prevented you from being able to dress yourself
    • If you had to use a wheelchair because you were no longer able to walk
    • If you were unable to leave your home
    • If your vision were seriously impaired
    • If your hearing were seriously impaired
    • If you needed kidney dialysis
    • If you needed chemotherapy
    • If you were in physical discomfort most of the time
    • If you could no longer control you bladder
    • If you could no longer control your bowels
    • If you could not think clearly

    The more you take the time now not only to think through whom you wish to choose as a Health Care Proxy, but also how that person would address these future scenarios, the more likely your wishes will be honored in the future.

    Make sure (especially if you are in a second marriage) that you have coordinated the person chosen as your Health Care Agent with the person named as your Trustee and/or your Attorney in fact under a Durable Power of Attorney so that the decisions about your medical care and how to pay for it are coordinated.



    Patricia Annino is a sought after speaker and nationally recognized authority on women and estate planning. She educates and empowers women to value themselves and their contributions in order to ACCOMPLISH GREAT THINGS in the world – and in so doing PROTECT THEMSELVES, those they love, and the organizations they care about. Annino recently released an updated version of her successful book, Women and Money: A Practical Guide to Estate Planning to include recent changes in the laws that govern how we protect our assets during and beyond our lifetime. To download Annino’s FREE eBook, Estate Planning 101 visit,

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